World is full of conflicts ie personal, social, political or financial, which may be at psychological level, mob level, national level or on legal platforms. It is observed that many a times, these conflicts have grown out of small differences of opinions, ego and intolerance.
Many problems arise due to misunderstanding. Misunderstanding is caused due to lack of communication. Communication is cutoff due to prejudice, ego or fear of defeat.
The problems once created become complex knots by strengthening of prejudices, irresponsible utterings and actions against other parties, false propaganda and hasty and forceful attempts to solve the problem in our favour. Use of force in the form of money, authority and undemocratic mob violance is often used to win over the stalmate. All such actions worsen the situation as they motivate other party also to use similar tactics. We experience similar situation, when we try to pull out wrong thread to openup the knot causing it to become more difficult.
Traffic jam on Indian roads is a typical example. When the road is blocked, there is a rush of filling up the open spaces and gaps by smaller vehicles from both sides making the traffic jam more difficult to sort out. Patience to wait in line, readyness to take the vehicles back can solve the problem easily but we require traffic police to force us to adopt this most logical solution.
We have read the story of two goats fighting for the way on a small bridge fall in the stream.
Openness of mind, respect about other's opinion and ability to examine the situation objectively without any prejudice are essential to solve problems.We should be calm, cautious and careful in our actions and try to bridge the communication gaps to enable discussion to sort out points of difference and suggest plausible solutions, which can be accepted by other party.
Generally parties in conflict avoid each other. This is counterproductive. Instead of avoiding contact or communication, we should seek the opportunity to have free exchange of opinions direclt on one to one basis. This would resolve many issues and clearly and correctly trasmit the assumptions, assertions and reasons of actions by each party. There would not be distortion in meaning, twisting of issues and intentional attachment of rumours.
Even if we are sure that other party is doing wrong, we should be able to convince its incorrectness by pointing it in a graceful way giving them time and chance to correct it. We also should be prepared to trace back out steps and actions if other party proves our mistakes.
Conflicts if not solved amicably may get converted in seperation, violent clashes, long drawn legal battels or war. All these yield discontent or suppression, heavy losses on both sides and Win or Loose situation. Better management of conflict with Win-Win situation is possible in every case if both parties show restraint and understanding of the problem on logical grounds.
Many problems arise due to misunderstanding. Misunderstanding is caused due to lack of communication. Communication is cutoff due to prejudice, ego or fear of defeat.
The problems once created become complex knots by strengthening of prejudices, irresponsible utterings and actions against other parties, false propaganda and hasty and forceful attempts to solve the problem in our favour. Use of force in the form of money, authority and undemocratic mob violance is often used to win over the stalmate. All such actions worsen the situation as they motivate other party also to use similar tactics. We experience similar situation, when we try to pull out wrong thread to openup the knot causing it to become more difficult.
Traffic jam on Indian roads is a typical example. When the road is blocked, there is a rush of filling up the open spaces and gaps by smaller vehicles from both sides making the traffic jam more difficult to sort out. Patience to wait in line, readyness to take the vehicles back can solve the problem easily but we require traffic police to force us to adopt this most logical solution.
We have read the story of two goats fighting for the way on a small bridge fall in the stream.
Openness of mind, respect about other's opinion and ability to examine the situation objectively without any prejudice are essential to solve problems.We should be calm, cautious and careful in our actions and try to bridge the communication gaps to enable discussion to sort out points of difference and suggest plausible solutions, which can be accepted by other party.
Generally parties in conflict avoid each other. This is counterproductive. Instead of avoiding contact or communication, we should seek the opportunity to have free exchange of opinions direclt on one to one basis. This would resolve many issues and clearly and correctly trasmit the assumptions, assertions and reasons of actions by each party. There would not be distortion in meaning, twisting of issues and intentional attachment of rumours.
Even if we are sure that other party is doing wrong, we should be able to convince its incorrectness by pointing it in a graceful way giving them time and chance to correct it. We also should be prepared to trace back out steps and actions if other party proves our mistakes.
Conflicts if not solved amicably may get converted in seperation, violent clashes, long drawn legal battels or war. All these yield discontent or suppression, heavy losses on both sides and Win or Loose situation. Better management of conflict with Win-Win situation is possible in every case if both parties show restraint and understanding of the problem on logical grounds.
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